While there is no one single way to deal with this, when you have a loved one, like a parent who is going through the final stages of their life, it's undeniably difficult. And we all find ways of trying to deal with this stress, but when we are attempting to support a parent who has been diagnosed with a terminal illness, you feel like you need to be Superwoman to get through the issues. And while we all deal with our mortality in different ways, some of us go on a major health kick and encourage our children and other family members to do the same, this might be the symptom of something much deeper. And it's important to recognize what you are going through as well as the person you care deeply about.
Researching the illness
This can be a double-edged sword because, for those that have been diagnosed with an illness that can cause you a lot of heartbreak, it may be adding fuel to the fire by looking deeper into it. However, a lot of people have found useful bits of information by doing their own research into the diagnosed illness, and so it helps them look after their parent better and to understand certain signs and symptoms they can spot and take the appropriate action before anything gets worse. A common illness for people above the age of 60 is asbestos poisoning, also known as mesothelioma, and if you look into the symptoms of mesothelioma, you can get vital information on what treatments are best. In addition to this, as well as what you might actually be entitled to claim for when it comes to things like medical bills or lost wages. While financial compensation may be the furthest thing from you and your parent's mind, this might be something that can help cushion the blow in a little way.
The importance of being open
If you have parents that have been reticent to talk about their condition you need to be patient, as maybe one day they will be ready to talk, and when that day comes be prepared to listen regardless of if you would want to avoid the subject. You don't need to give advice per se, as maybe all they require is a sounding board to discuss certain options, but you need to make sure that they feel comfortable in being so open and honest with you. So the best way is to reciprocate those feelings. They may have fears about death or the process of dying, and it's important for you to calm their fears and to do what you can to alleviate these worries whether by doing something for them or to offer encouraging words.
Create an atmosphere that is peaceful
Nobody wants to be constantly reminded of death or illness least of all the afflicted person, and so it's best for you to create an atmosphere that is full of love and laughter by having somewhere that feels like a home rather than a hospice or a healthcare facility. We all have the right to dignity when we pass, and this is a little thing that you can do for them.