I remember having this conversation with my kids, where we talked about life, and being true to oneself. My kids are still very young, but they are very curious and asks a lot of questions. So I make time to sit down with them and have a heart to heart talk about things that confuse them or any topic that interests them.
That conversation was because of Brianna being shy. She's shy, whenever there are other people around, she's shy at school and doesn't even talk to her classmates and teachers. She even missed a lot of opportunities at school because of that. But, I am glad that she is slowly getting out of her comfort zone. Just last school year, she joined the Spelling bee and won first place. Woohoo! This situation is not new to me. Growing up, I've always been shy as well. (Now you know where Brianna got it. Haha!) And, because of that, I've let a lot of opportunities and good things pass by.
I'm sure that a lot of people could relate to it. At some point in your life, you've said "no" to things, when in fact, what you wanted to say was, "yes." There are different reasons as to why this happens, probably insecurity, fear and lack self-confidence. It could also be because some people or situations are holding you back. I know a lot of people who care too much about others, thus setting aside their needs.
Every time you give in to these things, you say "no" not just to opportunities or possible good things, but you are also saying "no" to life. There's no wonder why many people are not genuinely happy.
So what should you do about it? The answer is simple, start saying, Yes to yourself, more.
Be true to yourself. Know what you want, what you need. Even if you have to say "No" to other people, so you could start on that new hobby, or have that "me time" that you've been wanting.
Say Yes to self-love. Embrace your flaws and your fears. You might think that these are hard to overcome, but believe me, it's all in your head. And that is something you have total control.
If someone has wronged you, forgive them. Not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve your inner peace.
It's the conscious decision you make every day, to choose you.
From being the shy girl (well, I still am), I can say that I have grown so much. But I know it's still a long way to go. And I am committed to saying yes to life by saying yes to myself, more. I also hope that the teachings I give my kids will grow on them.
And for that, I also said yes to getting myself an engagement ring to symbolize my commitment to myself. A beautiful reminder to always choose life.
I know that once you got used to saying yes to the things that hold you back, it may be hard it is for you to say no and choose yourself. But remember, it is doable. Take it one day at a time. If a piece of jewelry can motivate you to do so, then go for it!
I got my Meghan Engagement Ring with Swarovski from Zoey PH. It's one of the affordable jewelry brands Philippines has. They have a wide selection of beautiful and high quality yet affordable wedding rings and engagement rings.
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I love my ring! I wear it when I dress up even just at home. Though it's a bit big for my fingers because I gave the wrong size. But, it serves its purpose. An inspiration and a reminder of my commitment. Plus it makes me feel good wearing it or even just looking at it.
Every day, we are faced with choices and decisions to make. I hope that one of them is choosing to say yes to yourself. And no, it's not selfish. Remember, you cannot pour from an empty cup. The same thing applies to life. So work on making your self happy and creating a better version of yourself so that you could take care of others too. A happier you is a better you. And a better you help make a better world.